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There are times, as parents, we need to give  our children consequences for poor choices. This might include, but is not limited to: the withdrawal of privileges, the good old-fashioned “you’re grounded” or a time out.

In my home, the Xbox is the first sacrifice of battle. If you don’t do your chores, there is no time for playing just as if Mum doesn’t do the grocery shopping we don’t eat . Hitting your sister will get you a stint on your bed, thinking about why that is not such a good way of dealing with issues followed by a discussion on the right thing to do after you have calmed down. Going to the park without telling your mother and giving her an ulcer will guarantee you don’t go anywhere for a few days plus a lecture from Mum and a stern warning from Dad. Everyone has their assigned ‘corners’ in case a wrestling match begins that would rival any WWE event and I cannot physically referee said event at the time.

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Our house at 6pm every night

My children have handed each other consequences for what they consider inappropriate behaviour in what can only be described as Judge Judy meets The Super Nanny.

Judge Judy

It's getting like that here

These are some of the questions I have asked myself since I saw this strange phenomena appearing. How do you argue with that? Actually, is that right? Is that normal? Will that damage my children’s relationships with each other? Here are some of the behaviours I have observed this week alone:

  • Master 6 emphatically justifying why he had to take the Xbox cord from Bieber ( who is 12)
  • The Princess (11 years) telling Bieber he needs a time out to calm down ( and then proceeds to tell him he needs more sleep – it will improve his mood)
  • Bieber telling Red (who is 7 years his senior and has just moved back home) that he should get a full-time job or Mum and Dad will cut your internet – “that’s the way it works around here you know”
  • The Princess explaining to Master 6 that he needs to stop running in the house because he’s going to hurt himself or –  “you’re going to your corner”
  • Bieber telling Master 6 that if he doesn’t hurry up and take his bath then he will miss out on the family movie and go to bed early

I’m just starting to wonder if they are going to set consequences for me soon.

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Comments on: "No Xbox today for ye have sinned" (12)

  1. Candida Abrahamson PhD said:

    I understand your frustration–and the issue with the X-box– but I’m more into the “natural consequences” approach to child-rearing than into grounding. Too often parents try to take away what a child loves best in punishments, which results in pretty surly children. Research evidence on punishments does not show them to be as effective as parents would like them–understandably!–to be.

    • I agree with you and I’m not much of a ‘grounder’ myself but rather the consequence befitting the choice made. The main focus really is on the choice made – if you don’t get your chores done then you don’t have the time to play xbox etc. Thank you for your response and I agree with you about the surliness- my 12 year old is a master of the scowl and stomp. I dislike the word punishment and it’s not a word used in my home. Children have to learn there are consequences for their behaviour to assist them in preparing for the BWW ( Big Wide World) where the consequences are more serious for the choices they might make. When you are talking about natural consequences, younger children need guidance and assistance to see what they are. Thank you for reading.

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  3. You’ve created a monster! Well…several monsters actually. Just joking. It’s good for them to realise there are boundaries; that’s what’s up with families today, no boundaries are given or respected, this leads to problems in society as a whole. Take it from a dog who knows!

    • I have! yes, I agree. When I first took over a Preschool teaching position after a teacher had left, I had a huge task setting boundaries, developing respectful relationships etc with the children. The atmosphere was so very different after only a few weeks. I also think that children feel secure when they know the limits and have boundaries. It assists them emotionally and socially. I agree with the dog!

  4. Thank you so much! That is now my second nomination and I had better get to posting like a good nominee!!! I am glad you appreciate my blog, it is readers like you that make it so worthwhile!

    • Ok…the nomination reply was for you happilyeverafter25…I need sleep! All this study is going to wreck me. I think I do need some consequences!

    • Candida Abrahamson PhD said:

      Waht ever happened to the punishment fitting the crime? If the “crime” is too much use of the X-box,then restricting it makes sense. The challenge for parents is to come up with punishments that fit other offenses. Such a shift would readicallhy improve our prison system as well.

      • For sure! I face that challenge all the time – making the consequences meaningful and fitting, I want my children to learn from the situation and adapt their behaviour accordingly – such a good point about that shift improving our prison systems. I’m really appreciating your replies here- they’re challenging my thinking!

      • Candida Abrahamson PhD said:

        I recommend my clients take a look at books and CD’s from the Love & Logic Institute

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